Celebrating Life's Diversity
I have friends and acquaintances from every part of life. Some never attended school, while others have earned multiple advanced degrees. Some started at community colleges, and others graduated from prestigious Ivy League universities. My circle includes people earning just a few dollars a day and others who are billionaires. I know people with no family at all and others who belong to large, extended families. My connections range from individuals without influential contacts to those who are descendants of royalty, like the grandchildren of former Saudi kings. My friendships cross cultures and skin tones, from the palest Scots to the darkest Africans, and every shade in between.
A Question That Provoked Reflection
In every relationship, I always try to treat people based on their character and personal qualities, rather than things they can't control—such as their circumstances or the luck of where they were born. But recently, someone I deeply care about asked me something that really shook me: "Are you ashamed to be associated with me because I never finished college?"
Rethinking Implicit Bias
This question made me pause and reflect deeply about implicit biases and how easily our actions or words might unintentionally convey ideas we don't truly believe. It reminded me how important it is to communicate clearly that someone's value isn't defined by their educational background or circumstances.
Witnessing Resilience
The person who asked me this question is someone I deeply respect. They're in an extremely challenging situation, partly because of past decisions but mostly because of things completely beyond their control. They are raising two children alone and working incredibly hard to give their kids a safe and loving home. From what I can see, their children are happy, thriving, and well cared for. This alone speaks volumes about this person's strength, determination, and commitment. Every day, they continue to rebuild their life, piece by piece. They are stronger and more determined than I am, and I learn a lot from their example of perseverance.
A Message to the Struggling
To anyone who feels they are struggling—whether because of past mistakes or situations beyond your control—I want you to hear this clearly: your struggle matters. Your strength is truly inspiring. Keep moving forward, one step at a time. Never let societal judgments or implicit biases make you doubt your worth or diminish your achievements. Your character, your determination, and your courage to keep fighting through tough times define who you truly are. Your worth isn't measured by a piece of paper hanging on a wall, but by your willingness to strive, face challenges, and keep going. College isn't the right path for everyone, and that's perfectly fine. Find your own path, own it, and hold your head high. Never let anyone convince you otherwise.
Final Affirmation
Finally, to my friend who inspired these thoughts: No, I could never be ashamed of you. I am incredibly proud to know you, proud to witness your journey, and grateful to learn from your strength and example every single day.